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When You Coach, This is What Happens

 

I’ve been teaching managers how to coach for several years – in groups, and also 1:1 in coach/client relationships. Having worked in the corporate world, and having an “aha” moment when I learned the process and skills in coaching, I find it an extremely valuable tool for managers to use at the right time, with the right people. It may come as no surprise that I love hearing stories from clients about the changes they notice in their organizations when they set about to intentionally coach others.

Here is a short list of what I’ve heard from managers about what they observe when they become intentional about coaching others; I’m hoping you’ll experience these changes in your organization:

  1. New creative dialog happens: The most profound thing that happens is something that rarely happens in our corporate spaces: real, honest-to-goodness dialog. The kind of open conversation where you spend more time listening, asking questions, and those you are coaching are less afraid to speak about what matters to them. New ideas are formed, new activities begin, and people are thinking more than just reacting. There is a feeling of freshness and possibility in the organization. People feel motivated and inspired.

     

  2. You breathe a sigh of relief: Eventually, as you continue to coach, you find that you are not responsible for having all the answers. A burden has been lifted from your shoulders. People are coming up with their own answers and learning to figure things out for themselves. You can go away on vacation and things run well without you. You are developing others, getting them ready to take your place when you leave (therefore making yourself promotable).

     

  3. Your staff begins to coach others: This is the thing that leaders find hardest to believe, but if they look, they’ll see it. Almost imperceptibly, a “coaching culture” develops and spreads. Those who report to you will coach the people that report to them. People are listening to each other, helping each other. They’re learning on their own and finding new ways to work together. Coaching flows throughout the organization; working relationships improve and reporting relationships don’t restrict or delay what needs to get done. In fact, there is a freedom that occurs that allows change to happen faster and with less effort.

     

I want to work at a place where these things happen, don’t you? What’s keeping you from coaching others?


10 Responses to “When You Coach, This is What Happens”

  • Mary Jo,

    I have to tell you – I noticed myself physically relaxing while reading this post! The reality is, coaching can be such a blessing to both the leader being coached and the one doing the coaching, and I think you’ve encapsulated that here.

    I absolutely love how you pointed out that by coaching others it benefits you – it means you truly are looking to expand others, which makes you a real leader and more likely to be promoted.

    This really reminded me of recent conversations with Steve Farber in regard to his “Greater Than Yourself” leadership philosophy.

    Thank you for this post, Mary Jo – thrilled to know how successful you’ve been coaching others!

    Lisa Petrilli

  • Nan Watts:

    Mary Jo:

    I agree with Lisa. I am a Relationship & Personal Development Coach. I have always been a leader and recently completed a Leadership Development program. As I continue to build my business I am always engaged in conversations about what it is that I do and how I can serve others.

    Your post explains the value of coaching and awareness of impact that leaders who coach can have with great clarity and authenticity. I especially related to your 2nd point about the relief we can feel when we trust that by creating an environment of trust, asking questions, listening we will see that people are naturally creative, resourceful and quite capable of finding their own answers. What a relief indeed!

    I am glad I found your blog. I look forward to future posts.

    Take care,

    Nan Watts

  • Amanda:

    Coaching is great and when it works the way you intend you feel awesome! I work with students on a daily basis and i love it when i see them start to make clinical decisions on their own…it means ive done my job!

  • Lisa, It was so nice to meet you recently, and thanks for stopping by with a comment. Regarding how coaching benefits “you” – I find it so much more compelling for leaders to try coaching when they realize it will benefit them, also!

    Nan, welcome. Thank you for your kind comments and testimonial to the benefits of coaching, and I hope you’ll stop by again!

    Amanda, I love the way coaching has spread it’s wings to so many areas. You are to be commended for your work with students – congratulations!

  • Sarah:

    I want to work in that place too! My favorite is number three. I do believe that people will lead the way they are led, which gives great strength to top-down changes in company culture. Might as well create a place where people help each other out like that and don’t have to worry about power distance. I understand that we create social hierarchies for a reason, but when they get in the way of progress, they are no longer worth it. Better to have everyone on the same team. Thanks for another thought-provoking post!

  • Anthony Marcin:

    Great post. Maybe a fourth item could be “You as a manager will learn from coaching”. Just because you are coaching others doesn’t mean you yourself won’t learn during this process as well. By mentoring and coaching others you learn more about your employees, yourself and the methods or ideals you are passing along. This might allow you to see or make adjustments on how you are coaching, providing your methods or ideals for the organization as you interact with your employees.

  • I really enjoyed this post. It would be really interesting to see a case study done on an organization that changed its management model to reflect your ideas. I really do believe that leaders tend to lead in the same way they were led. So this type of leadership will self propagate. I agree with Anthony that coaches tend to learn as much as they teach, because there is more give and take than in a traditional supervisor/worker relationship. Great post.

  • Sarah, thanks. And some leaders are willing to accept the “letting go” that coaching entails, some aren’t. I would suggest that those who don’t will have organizations that I wouldn’t want to work in!

    Anthony, how true. Sometimes, the selfishness of learning more is enough to convince a leader that they need to coach!

    Ray, great idea. I may post a “case study” at some point in the future. This post is a composite of what I’ve heard from a number of leaders over the years.

  • Wendy:

    Creating dialog builds relationships, which hopefully develops into trusting relationships. These trusting relationships open pathways of more communication and therefore more involvement and cohesion among employees. The feeling and freedom of being able to get involved leads to higher job satisfaction and most likely higher job performance, so all in all, I think that everyone would benefit from working in this type of environment! Thanks for sharing this with us :)

  • Wendy, nicely put. Thanks!

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Mary Jo Asmus
Mary Jo
A former executive in a Fortune 100 company, I own and operate a leadership solutions firm called Aspire Collaborative Services. We partner with great leaders to help them become even greater at developing, improving, and sustaining relationships with the people who are essential to their success. This blog is for leaders and those who help them to be more intentional about relationships at work. I am married, have two daughters, and a dog named Edgar the Leadership Pug who exemplifies the importance of relationships to great leadership.
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