Comments on: Try "Shut Up and Listen" Meetings http://www.aspire-cs.com/try-shut-up-and-listen-meetings-2 Thu, 09 Feb 2012 18:03:14 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Three Ways to Use Silence to Get More Moxie In Your Day | Aspire-CS http://www.aspire-cs.com/try-shut-up-and-listen-meetings-2/comment-page-1#comment-1686 Three Ways to Use Silence to Get More Moxie In Your Day | Aspire-CS Sun, 09 May 2010 21:27:43 +0000 http://www.aspire-cs.com/new-site/try-shut-up-and-listen-meetings-2#comment-1686 [...] Shut up: You really don’t need to fill every pause in conversation with your words. Allowing some silence to unfold also allows thought for everyone in the conversation (and thinking is good). Yes, it might feel uncomfortable at first, but being conscious of pausing and allowing some quiet in the dialog will make it better and more creative. You’ll get over the discomfort. And I promise that if you wait long enough, someone will speak and the words that come out will be insightful. [...] [...] Shut up: You really don’t need to fill every pause in conversation with your words. Allowing some silence to unfold also allows thought for everyone in the conversation (and thinking is good). Yes, it might feel uncomfortable at first, but being conscious of pausing and allowing some quiet in the dialog will make it better and more creative. You’ll get over the discomfort. And I promise that if you wait long enough, someone will speak and the words that come out will be insightful. [...]

]]> By: Mary Jo Asmus, President, Aspire Collaborative Services LLC http://www.aspire-cs.com/try-shut-up-and-listen-meetings-2/comment-page-1#comment-109 Mary Jo Asmus, President, Aspire Collaborative Services LLC Tue, 21 Jul 2009 16:47:19 +0000 http://www.aspire-cs.com/new-site/try-shut-up-and-listen-meetings-2#comment-109 Bret: thanks for reinforcing in a succinct way that listening can be learned and taught.<br /><br />Gwyn: as a Myers-Briggs Type Indicator practitioner, I've also come to the realization that many of us extraverts definitely think out loud! However, there are limits and boundaries to how much others are willing to listen to us drone on with every thought in our heads.<br /><br />I've had clients try varying degrees and methodologies of this "Shut Up and Listen" exercise. It can be quite powerful for them. Listening is terribly underrated as a key skill for leadership! Bret: thanks for reinforcing in a succinct way that listening can be learned and taught.

Gwyn: as a Myers-Briggs Type Indicator practitioner, I've also come to the realization that many of us extraverts definitely think out loud! However, there are limits and boundaries to how much others are willing to listen to us drone on with every thought in our heads.

I've had clients try varying degrees and methodologies of this "Shut Up and Listen" exercise. It can be quite powerful for them. Listening is terribly underrated as a key skill for leadership!

]]> By: Gwyn Teatro http://www.aspire-cs.com/try-shut-up-and-listen-meetings-2/comment-page-1#comment-108 Gwyn Teatro Tue, 21 Jul 2009 16:17:10 +0000 http://www.aspire-cs.com/new-site/try-shut-up-and-listen-meetings-2#comment-108 You mention, quite accurately, that some leaders feel they need to have all of the answers. Perhaps these leaders talk more than listen because they believe that if they talk long enough, eventually they'll come up with the solution they seek. To your point, they wouldn't have to work so hard if they spent more time in listening mode and so I think your idea of "Shut up and Listen" meetings is excellent.<br />It is a great challenge, I think, for an executive to attend a meeting with the intent of only asking questions, or re-stating remarks for clarity - but what a great exercise!!<br /><br />Another thought provoking post! Thanks Mary Jo You mention, quite accurately, that some leaders feel they need to have all of the answers. Perhaps these leaders talk more than listen because they believe that if they talk long enough, eventually they'll come up with the solution they seek. To your point, they wouldn't have to work so hard if they spent more time in listening mode and so I think your idea of "Shut up and Listen" meetings is excellent.
It is a great challenge, I think, for an executive to attend a meeting with the intent of only asking questions, or re-stating remarks for clarity – but what a great exercise!!

Another thought provoking post! Thanks Mary Jo

]]> By: Bret Simmons http://www.aspire-cs.com/try-shut-up-and-listen-meetings-2/comment-page-1#comment-107 Bret Simmons Tue, 21 Jul 2009 12:04:54 +0000 http://www.aspire-cs.com/new-site/try-shut-up-and-listen-meetings-2#comment-107 Another great post Mary Jo. Listening is a behavior, hence it can be learned, developed, and taught to others. Another great post Mary Jo. Listening is a behavior, hence it can be learned, developed, and taught to others.

]]> By: Mary Jo Asmus, President, Aspire Collaborative Services LLC http://www.aspire-cs.com/try-shut-up-and-listen-meetings-2/comment-page-1#comment-106 Mary Jo Asmus, President, Aspire Collaborative Services LLC Tue, 21 Jul 2009 11:40:39 +0000 http://www.aspire-cs.com/new-site/try-shut-up-and-listen-meetings-2#comment-106 Becky,<br /><br />You have a good point. Perhaps leadership begins at home.<br /><br />I've found that when clients develop some simple techniques for improving their professional lives, they "spill over" into their personal lives. "shutting up and listening" is a great example of that. Becky,

You have a good point. Perhaps leadership begins at home.

I've found that when clients develop some simple techniques for improving their professional lives, they "spill over" into their personal lives. "shutting up and listening" is a great example of that.

]]> By: Becky Robinson http://www.aspire-cs.com/try-shut-up-and-listen-meetings-2/comment-page-1#comment-105 Becky Robinson Tue, 21 Jul 2009 10:57:14 +0000 http://www.aspire-cs.com/new-site/try-shut-up-and-listen-meetings-2#comment-105 Glad to see this new post, and glad, too, that you are drawing from your archives for all your new readers.<br /><br />The idea of shut up and listen meetings is a great one, not only in business but also with friends and family. Wouldn't it be nice to go out with your spouse and purposefully "shut up and listen"? Glad to see this new post, and glad, too, that you are drawing from your archives for all your new readers.

The idea of shut up and listen meetings is a great one, not only in business but also with friends and family. Wouldn't it be nice to go out with your spouse and purposefully "shut up and listen"?

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