Thought-full Thursday: Giving and Taking


Every Thursday, we provide you with a thoughtful way to coach yourself – something all leaders need to do. So take five and enjoy the inspirational quotes and reflect on the questions that follow. Your comments and answers to the questions are most welcome!

Today’s Thought-full Thursday is dedicated to the sacrifices made by our armed services personnel and their families.

Blessed are those who give without remembering. And blessed are those who take without forgetting. ~Bernard Meltzer

  • What are you giving without remembering?
  • What are you taking without forgetting?
  • Who is in need of your giving without remembering?
  • What will it take for you to habitually express gratitude?


I am a former executive in a Fortune 100 company. I have owned and operated an executive coaching firm since 2003 called Aspire Collaborative Services LLC. We partner with great leaders to help them become even greater at developing, improving, and sustaining relationships with the people who are essential to their success. This blog is for leaders and those who help them to be more intentional about relationships at work. My top personal values include respect for others, kindness, compassion, collaboration and gratitude. I work very hard at practicing my values daily and when I don’t succeed, I practice some more. I am married with two wonderful daughters and two spoiled pugs.

7 comments on “Thought-full Thursday: Giving and Taking

  1. Mary Jo, Gratitude is one of those things that is hard to teach to someone. Someone may say they are grateful for something when the tone in their voice says that they really are not. Personally, I try to be grateful everday. I try to remind myself that it’s not all about me and that there are others in the world who are a lot less fortunate. I guess the best way to give is to not remember. For me that means you give without expecting anything in return. If you expect things in return then that is not truly giving. If you take something from someone you should not expect more than that.I’m not sure if one can express gratitude at all times, but it is very important to try and remember to do this as much as we can. Thanks for the quote.

  2. Hello Mary Jo,

    I am glad that you brought up the armed services. It is all too often that we go about our days forgetting what many people have given up in order to serve our country. On days like Veteran’s day we often stop to remember those that have served for us and our country, but on other days of the year we go about our days forgetting what people in the armed services do for us. How brave these people are–to fight for our freedom and give up their lives to serve for the lives of others. Thank you to all those people out there.


  3. I try to make giving a part of my daily interactions with everyone, family, friend, stranger. I want to be able to give without thinking about it. Somethings I give without any thought, other things I have to really force myself to recognize it. I humbly take when it is presented to me. My taking is when someone I give to acknowledges their appreciation and I’m then motivated to give more.

  4. Thanks for the great post. After reading the quote, and the comments that followed, I cant help but comment myself on Carina’s post. She’s absolutely right; we go on, business-as-usual every other day of the year, until we have to stop and reflect on the sacrifices of others that risk their lives for the freedoms that we take for granted.
    I think this could be easily translated to our everyday lives. We need to take the opportunity, daily, to recognize what others are doing for us without any expectations. And we should take time to reciprocate to those around us.

    Thanks again for the great post/ quote.


  5. Mary Jo,

    Thank you for posting a blog that reminds everybody who reads it that our troops put their lives on the line for us everyday. This is something I don’t forget. I many friends in the military and I am always grateful to see them when they are home. Thanks again for the great post.


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