Thought-full Thursday: Preparing the Self

Every Thursday, we provide you with a thoughtful way to coach yourself – something all leaders need to do. So take five and enjoy the inspirational quotes and reflect on the questions that follow.

“Preparing your “self” first, the who you must be in order to act in the direction of goals is the foundation. This gives you the ability to DO what comes your way in support of your reaching those goals. The result is that you can have those goals at which you are aiming. That’s the magic formula: Be-Do-Have. The preparation for the journey is not an agonizing over the what-if’s and details . . . It is the preparation of the Self who is about to take the journey. Who must you be in order to do what will be required? Who must you become to keep your eye on the prize regardless of the challenges that may reshape the journey and test your resilience? Who must you be in order to enjoy the process. Who you become in the climb is more important than the goal itself.”  Barry Eisen

  • Who are you becoming in the climb?
  • Is who you are aligned with the prize?
  • What is the journey that you must take to become the leader you want to be?
  • Who can help?


I am a former executive in a Fortune 100 company. I have owned and operated an executive coaching firm since 2003 called Aspire Collaborative Services LLC. We partner with great leaders to help them become even greater at developing, improving, and sustaining relationships with the people who are essential to their success. This blog is for leaders and those who help them to be more intentional about relationships at work. My top personal values include respect for others, kindness, compassion, collaboration and gratitude. I work very hard at practicing my values daily and when I don’t succeed, I practice some more. I am married with two wonderful daughters and two spoiled pugs.

2 comments on “Thought-full Thursday: Preparing the Self

  1. All too often, the first step in the Be-Do-Have formula is skipped. The intense focus on achieving goals quickly(which is important) often forces one to jump into the DOING without any self reflection. By skipping the first step, one is no able to ground the doing and having in “self”. The goal may be accomplished but at what expense. If I skip the first step, I will learn about the process (doing and having) but will learn little about myself.

  2. Thanks, Ricky. I hope “Thought-full Thursday” is helpful for you then (I post a new reflection every week). You’ve provided a great testimonial for why I do this.

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