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The “Yes….and” Exercise


A client organization graciously invited me to their semi-annual Leadership conference last week. There were lots of laughs as hundreds of organizational leaders watched The Second City hosts perform the comedic improvisations that they are well known for.

There was also some seriousness and attention to the importance of leadership too. We did plent of group interactive exercises. One exercise, a long time favorite, created a lot of buzz. I had forgotten about the energy that can be generated with the “yes….and” exercise until that day.

How “Yes….and” works

This is a great exercise to facilitate with your team if you want to generate some new ideas, or to simply emphasize the importance of supporting new ideas. Its also a great follow-on to last week’s post, “Ten Things That Will Foster Great Conversations”.  It shows what happens to the energy in a conversation when new ideas are shot down – and then shows what happens when they are supported. It goes like this:

Each person in the room pairs up with a partner. In each partner-pair, and in each round, person A describes a new idea. This can be set up by the facilitator as a real situation that needs fresh ideas   (in this case, the “pretend” scenario was, “What should our team do for our annual off-site?”). Each person in the room can find a new partner for each round.

Round 1: Person B responds to Person A’s idea(s) with “No….but/because (a reason why it won’t work)”.

Round 2: Person B responds to Person A’s idea(s) with “Yes….but (a reason why it won’t work or another idea that person B feels is more viable)”.

Round 3: Person B responds to Person A’s idea(s) with “Yes….and (support and build on A’s idea)”.

In the third round at last week’s conference, we could hardly hear our partners talk. Several hundred people supporting a partner built up to a clear crescendo, demonstrating the positive energy of building, teamwork, partnership, and support.

Try it at your next meeting. After the demonstration of “shooting down” ideas in rounds 1 and 2, your team will understand the importance of support and collaboration with round 3.

(P.S. This works well demonstrated in small and 1:1 meetings too!).


5 Responses to “The “Yes….and” Exercise”

  • I have heard of this exercise before and I really like it. I am glad that you reminded me of it. It is very interesting how much of a difference it makes when the ideas are accepted and encouraged compared to when they are shot down without second thought. Thanks for another great post.

  • Brandon, nice to see you back here! I loved hearing the “din” of the energy in the room in the third round. It’s a great demonstration of the difference in encouragement you describe.

  • As soon as I read this exercise it resonated with me. I didn’t even have a partner to try it out with, but even in my mind–imagining what it would be like to have someone respond with,”Yes, and…”–I could feel a real difference.

    I’m definitely going to use this technique. Thanks for the great idea.

  • Siddhartha, nice that you could feel the benefits without actually trying it. Let me know how it works for you!

  • It’s a great exercise to begin an offsite, strategy meeting or brainstorming session, too. The energy level keeps rising and everyone is smiling by the end of round three. That’s how we can create a creative and innovative space at work. Thanks for posting the experience!

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Mary Jo Asmus
Mary Jo
A former executive in a Fortune 100 company, I own and operate a leadership solutions firm called Aspire Collaborative Services. We partner with great leaders to help them become even greater at developing, improving, and sustaining relationships with the people who are essential to their success. This blog is for leaders and those who help them to be more intentional about relationships at work. I am married, have two daughters, and a dog named Edgar the Leadership Pug who exemplifies the importance of relationships to great leadership.
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