Comments on: Staying in Integrity http://www.aspire-cs.com/staying-in-integrity Mon, 06 Sep 2010 17:05:50 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Sun-Hua Lin http://www.aspire-cs.com/staying-in-integrity/comment-page-1#comment-364 Sun-Hua Lin Thu, 15 Oct 2009 22:50:14 +0000 http://www.aspire-cs.com/?p=372#comment-364 It is true that everyone will continue to test our integrity, so we have to be more careful on our behavior. In Asian business situation, sometimes it's not very clear on this integrity line.For example, giving presents is a common way to show our respect, but it also could be "missing integrity."because people might think it's a bribe. Leaders have to be really careful on this because they may lose their reputation and also lose their respect and influence. It is true that everyone will continue to test our integrity, so we have to be more careful on our behavior. In Asian business situation, sometimes it’s not very clear on this integrity line.For example, giving presents is a common way to show our respect, but it also could be “missing integrity.”because people might think it’s a bribe. Leaders have to be really careful on this because they may lose their reputation and also lose their respect and influence.

]]> By: Mary Jo Asmus http://www.aspire-cs.com/staying-in-integrity/comment-page-1#comment-363 Mary Jo Asmus Thu, 15 Oct 2009 11:11:13 +0000 http://www.aspire-cs.com/?p=372#comment-363 Becky, thanks. You received the intent perfectly. I also think that finding a way to be intentional about recognizing where we are compromising our integrity on a daily, minute by minute basis is important - but difficult! Becky, thanks. You received the intent perfectly. I also think that finding a way to be intentional about recognizing where we are compromising our integrity on a daily, minute by minute basis is important – but difficult!

]]> By: Becky Robinson http://www.aspire-cs.com/staying-in-integrity/comment-page-1#comment-362 Becky Robinson Thu, 15 Oct 2009 10:47:43 +0000 http://www.aspire-cs.com/?p=372#comment-362 This is a fantastic post, Mary Jo. You make an important point by leaving out the discussions of the kind of lack of integrity that lands people in jail. The way to prevent those kinds of major failures is to focus on the small decisions. By staying in integrity through all our day to day decisions, we protect ourselves and prepare ourselves to be wise in larger decisions. I love the discussions you start! This is a fantastic post, Mary Jo. You make an important point by leaving out the discussions of the kind of lack of integrity that lands people in jail. The way to prevent those kinds of major failures is to focus on the small decisions. By staying in integrity through all our day to day decisions, we protect ourselves and prepare ourselves to be wise in larger decisions. I love the discussions you start!

]]> By: Mary Jo Asmus http://www.aspire-cs.com/staying-in-integrity/comment-page-1#comment-361 Mary Jo Asmus Thu, 15 Oct 2009 01:51:54 +0000 http://www.aspire-cs.com/?p=372#comment-361 Aaron, interesting that you would see how wrong can be done when you try to please others. I never thought of that. Ajo, Wow. Simple, but true. Maybe that is the essence of integrity. Thanks for spurring my thinking! Aaron, interesting that you would see how wrong can be done when you try to please others. I never thought of that.

Ajo, Wow. Simple, but true. Maybe that is the essence of integrity. Thanks for spurring my thinking!

]]> By: Ajo Cherian http://www.aspire-cs.com/staying-in-integrity/comment-page-1#comment-360 Ajo Cherian Thu, 15 Oct 2009 00:55:19 +0000 http://www.aspire-cs.com/?p=372#comment-360 A great list of pointers, Mary Jo. What I find interesting is that once you have defined your core uncompromisable values, it becomes much harder to live up to them in your daily life. But there is great joy when you do. Maybe that is the essence of integrity? A great list of pointers, Mary Jo. What I find interesting is that once you have defined your core uncompromisable values, it becomes much harder to live up to them in your daily life. But there is great joy when you do. Maybe that is the essence of integrity?

]]> By: Aaron Assad http://www.aspire-cs.com/staying-in-integrity/comment-page-1#comment-359 Aaron Assad Thu, 15 Oct 2009 00:18:05 +0000 http://www.aspire-cs.com/?p=372#comment-359 This sometimes can be a really hard task, sometimes in trying to please some persons you go out of your path and end up doing things that are not right, the smart thing to do is to learn from this mistake, the problem is when you are not capable of doing this or worst you never notice that you are doing wrong. You need to take your time and be able to understand yourself, because if you are not able to understand yourself who will? GREAT post!!! This sometimes can be a really hard task, sometimes in trying to please some persons you go out of your path and end up doing things that are not right, the smart thing to do is to learn from this mistake, the problem is when you are not capable of doing this or worst you never notice that you are doing wrong. You need to take your time and be able to understand yourself, because if you are not able to understand yourself who will?
GREAT post!!!

]]> By: Mary Jo Asmus http://www.aspire-cs.com/staying-in-integrity/comment-page-1#comment-358 Mary Jo Asmus Wed, 14 Oct 2009 23:47:08 +0000 http://www.aspire-cs.com/?p=372#comment-358 Erin and Peg, thanks for your support! Monica, I agree - "feet following the mouth" (walking the talk). How amazing when we come across those that are truly doing this. Lisa, Listening to the gut is an important tool. The only problem I see with it is that some of my clients don't get what that means (MBTI "sensors" would be typical) - they don't know how to "listen to their gut". Any suggestions? Tom, I've had the same experience so many times that I've ceased being surprised! Erin and Peg, thanks for your support!

Monica, I agree – “feet following the mouth” (walking the talk). How amazing when we come across those that are truly doing this.

Lisa, Listening to the gut is an important tool. The only problem I see with it is that some of my clients don’t get what that means (MBTI “sensors” would be typical) – they don’t know how to “listen to their gut”. Any suggestions?

Tom, I’ve had the same experience so many times that I’ve ceased being surprised!

]]> By: Tom Glover http://www.aspire-cs.com/staying-in-integrity/comment-page-1#comment-357 Tom Glover Wed, 14 Oct 2009 20:07:50 +0000 http://www.aspire-cs.com/?p=372#comment-357 When you mention "the silent, insidious, creeping compromises" it is a powerful reminder that we are tested all the time, every day and it is hard work to stay true to who we really are. I think many times folks haven't really taken the time and effort to do the self reflection to really know who they are and what is most important them. I'm always surprised when I ask someone about their core values and beliefs and they hesitate looking for an answer. When you mention “the silent, insidious, creeping compromises” it is a powerful reminder that we are tested all the time, every day and it is hard work to stay true to who we really are. I think many times folks haven’t really taken the time and effort to do the self reflection to really know who they are and what is most important them. I’m always surprised when I ask someone about their core values and beliefs and they hesitate looking for an answer.

]]> By: Lisa Rosendahl http://www.aspire-cs.com/staying-in-integrity/comment-page-1#comment-356 Lisa Rosendahl Wed, 14 Oct 2009 19:39:38 +0000 http://www.aspire-cs.com/?p=372#comment-356 You are right on when you say we know when someone else does not have integrity. For staying in integrity, I'd add "listen to the gut" because my stomach tells me when I am in or coming into an area that's not quite right. Snazzy website by the way! You are right on when you say we know when someone else does not have integrity. For staying in integrity, I’d add “listen to the gut” because my stomach tells me when I am in or coming into an area that’s not quite right. Snazzy website by the way!

]]> By: Monica Diaz http://www.aspire-cs.com/staying-in-integrity/comment-page-1#comment-355 Monica Diaz Wed, 14 Oct 2009 15:05:49 +0000 http://www.aspire-cs.com/?p=372#comment-355 You touch on an important issue for leaders, especially in the corporate world. Leadership is of course about how you impact others, but that is done mainly by BEING true to yourself, your message, your mission, your truth! Nothing as compelling as a leader that walks the talk with integrity. Your motion to look inside and follow your own compass is a reminder most leaders need continually. Also, checking integrity is about being open to feedback. To make sure if your "feet follow your mouth" you need close relationships with people around you that are truthful, honest and not afraid to tell you when you stray. You touch on an important issue for leaders, especially in the corporate world. Leadership is of course about how you impact others, but that is done mainly by BEING true to yourself, your message, your mission, your truth! Nothing as compelling as a leader that walks the talk with integrity. Your motion to look inside and follow your own compass is a reminder most leaders need continually. Also, checking integrity is about being open to feedback. To make sure if your “feet follow your mouth” you need close relationships with people around you that are truthful, honest and not afraid to tell you when you stray.

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