Comments on: Seeing the “And” in Others http://www.aspire-cs.com/seeing-the-and-in-others Thu, 09 Feb 2012 18:03:14 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Mary Jo Asmus http://www.aspire-cs.com/seeing-the-and-in-others/comment-page-1#comment-1942 Mary Jo Asmus Tue, 20 Jul 2010 13:12:43 +0000 http://www.aspire-cs.com/?p=1497#comment-1942 Thanks Christine. My clients get paid for their good judgment. But sometimes, they see people (as we all do) as one-dimensional, neglecting the part of others might be the very thing that makes them spectacular, and can be most helpful to the greater good of the organization. Seeing "and" can help. Thanks Christine. My clients get paid for their good judgment. But sometimes, they see people (as we all do) as one-dimensional, neglecting the part of others might be the very thing that makes them spectacular, and can be most helpful to the greater good of the organization. Seeing “and” can help.

]]> By: Christine Livingston http://www.aspire-cs.com/seeing-the-and-in-others/comment-page-1#comment-1941 Christine Livingston Tue, 20 Jul 2010 12:54:01 +0000 http://www.aspire-cs.com/?p=1497#comment-1941 What a great post. I love the way you've put it simply here: "seeing the 'and'". A lot of life, particularly business, is reductionist in its orientation. If we can see things by the lowest common denominator we can understand them. Seeing the "and" challenges us to break that a little and to understand something of paradox too. Makes complexity and difference more okay somehow. The story of your client shows what's possible from that place. What a great post. I love the way you’ve put it simply here: “seeing the ‘and’”.

A lot of life, particularly business, is reductionist in its orientation. If we can see things by the lowest common denominator we can understand them. Seeing the “and” challenges us to break that a little and to understand something of paradox too. Makes complexity and difference more okay somehow. The story of your client shows what’s possible from that place.

]]> By: Mary Jo Asmus http://www.aspire-cs.com/seeing-the-and-in-others/comment-page-1#comment-1940 Mary Jo Asmus Tue, 20 Jul 2010 00:21:20 +0000 http://www.aspire-cs.com/?p=1497#comment-1940 Welcome Bob, I borrowed from "yes and" exercises to write this post, and I've used "yes and" in my executive coaching. Its fun and likely to produce the kind of experience your readers experienced! And thanks for the link. Welcome Bob, I borrowed from “yes and” exercises to write this post, and I’ve used “yes and” in my executive coaching. Its fun and likely to produce the kind of experience your readers experienced! And thanks for the link.

]]> By: Bob Faw http://www.aspire-cs.com/seeing-the-and-in-others/comment-page-1#comment-1939 Bob Faw Tue, 20 Jul 2010 00:06:26 +0000 http://www.aspire-cs.com/?p=1497#comment-1939 BTW, I'm going to put a link to this post on my blog as well. BTW, I’m going to put a link to this post on my blog as well.

]]> By: Bob Faw http://www.aspire-cs.com/seeing-the-and-in-others/comment-page-1#comment-1938 Bob Faw Tue, 20 Jul 2010 00:05:42 +0000 http://www.aspire-cs.com/?p=1497#comment-1938 I really like this post, Mary Jo. I've found the same dynamic in my work. Interestingly enough I teach it as "yes and". I have a similar posting a couple months ago. http://bobfaw.wordpress.com/2010/06/24/improvisational-leadership-positive-influence-for-everything/ Keep up the great blogging! I really like this post, Mary Jo. I’ve found the same dynamic in my work. Interestingly enough I teach it as “yes and”. I have a similar posting a couple months ago. http://bobfaw.wordpress.com/2010/06/24/improvisational-leadership-positive-influence-for-everything/

Keep up the great blogging!

]]> By: Mary Jo Asmus http://www.aspire-cs.com/seeing-the-and-in-others/comment-page-1#comment-1936 Mary Jo Asmus Mon, 19 Jul 2010 21:37:08 +0000 http://www.aspire-cs.com/?p=1497#comment-1936 Caroline, thanks for stopping by and adding your thoughts and kind words. I love to hear from other coaches. Caroline, thanks for stopping by and adding your thoughts and kind words. I love to hear from other coaches.

]]> By: Executive Coach Caroline Smith http://www.aspire-cs.com/seeing-the-and-in-others/comment-page-1#comment-1934 Executive Coach Caroline Smith Mon, 19 Jul 2010 21:06:32 +0000 http://www.aspire-cs.com/?p=1497#comment-1934 Wow, I love the phrase "seeing the 'and' in others"! This resonates with my desire to always look for strengths in a person. Since I work with technology execs, I constantly hear people promote the stereotype that technically brilliant people cannot lead. Using your language, is it possible for someone to be technically brilliant AND a leader? YES! Thanks, Mary Jo, for such thoughtful writing. Wow, I love the phrase “seeing the ‘and’ in others”! This resonates with my desire to always look for strengths in a person. Since I work with technology execs, I constantly hear people promote the stereotype that technically brilliant people cannot lead. Using your language, is it possible for someone to be technically brilliant AND a leader? YES! Thanks, Mary Jo, for such thoughtful writing.

]]> By: Mary Jo Asmus http://www.aspire-cs.com/seeing-the-and-in-others/comment-page-1#comment-1933 Mary Jo Asmus Mon, 19 Jul 2010 14:14:36 +0000 http://www.aspire-cs.com/?p=1497#comment-1933 Tanmay, that must have been a very wonderful mentor. Great advice, thanks for sharing. Becky, nice to see you comment here. I do think that we all tend to judge others and sometimes consider them to be one dimensional - and not always in the best way. I love your comment that we can discover new strengths in others to appreciate (or even sometimes "latent" abilities) and help develop for the greater good of our organizations! I would love to hear about an "and" you discover today. Tanmay, that must have been a very wonderful mentor. Great advice, thanks for sharing.

Becky, nice to see you comment here. I do think that we all tend to judge others and sometimes consider them to be one dimensional – and not always in the best way. I love your comment that we can discover new strengths in others to appreciate (or even sometimes “latent” abilities) and help develop for the greater good of our organizations!

I would love to hear about an “and” you discover today.

]]> By: Becky Robinson http://www.aspire-cs.com/seeing-the-and-in-others/comment-page-1#comment-1932 Becky Robinson Mon, 19 Jul 2010 13:00:33 +0000 http://www.aspire-cs.com/?p=1497#comment-1932 I love the idea of finding freedom in the "and." When we look beyond our initial or even persistent impressions of a person and their personal characteristics or ability to make a contribution to the organization, we are able to discover new strengths and new aspects of a person to appreciate. I will be looking for the "and" today. Thanks, MJ! I love the idea of finding freedom in the “and.” When we look beyond our initial or even persistent impressions of a person and their personal characteristics or ability to make a contribution to the organization, we are able to discover new strengths and new aspects of a person to appreciate. I will be looking for the “and” today. Thanks, MJ!

]]> By: Tanmay Vora http://www.aspire-cs.com/seeing-the-and-in-others/comment-page-1#comment-1930 Tanmay Vora Mon, 19 Jul 2010 11:33:27 +0000 http://www.aspire-cs.com/?p=1497#comment-1930 Great post Mary Jo - offers a great perspective to look for the basic characteristics of a person + "and". One of the best advices I have received from one of my mentors when I started leading people was ,"Never give up on people", and this approach only pushes you to think about possibilities within a person that can be nurtured. Best, Tanmay Great post Mary Jo – offers a great perspective to look for the basic characteristics of a person + “and”.

One of the best advices I have received from one of my mentors when I started leading people was ,”Never give up on people”, and this approach only pushes you to think about possibilities within a person that can be nurtured.

Best,
Tanmay

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