Leading with Love
Dr. Bret Simmons, a tenured professor and blogging friend at the University of Nevada in Reno, has a group of MBA students who blog; many of whom add their wisdom to my posts by commenting on a regular basis. I asked if any of them would like guest post. This is the second guest post from one of those students.
Kate Grey finds joy in creating adventurous marketing communications programs that produce results. Thanks to Lynn’s influence and the MBA program at the University of Nevada, Reno, she is now a student of leadership too and blogs at Grey Matter www.kategreysf.wordpress.com. I hope you’ll find her short post as powerful as I did, and visit her wonderful blog too.
The best leader I ever had told me she loved me.
For anyone who knows Lynn S. Atcheson professionally, that might be surprising. Lynn is a business powerhouse and steward of organizations that matter in our community. When I worked for her, she was vice president of marketing communications for the region’s largest health system. Lynn was the first woman to fill several key roles our state, including the first female appointee to the Nevada Commission on Economic Development and the first female president of Western Industrial Nevada, a prominent executive-networking group. She helped establish the region’s economic-development agency, EDAWN, back when Reno, and just about every other city its size, was very much an old-boys network.
Caring for the team pays off
Love is an unusual attitude in a business leader. In Lynn’s case, love expressed the central tenet of her personal leadership philosophy: servant leadership. She was there to care for me and my peers, to shepherd us, to give us wings and help us grow. The result was a tight-knit, high-performing team. With all her achievements in a male-dominated business world, Lynn loved us in a distinctly motherly fashion, as her daughters and sons, which is exactly how she expressed it in the one or two conversations we had about it.
Lynn truly believes in the value and purpose of leadership, and spent a lot of time studying leadership concepts and bringing them back to her staff to consider. As our servant, she did all the heavy lifting, reading books and vetting ideas, and then presenting them back to us for adoption. Lynn built trust in her day-to-day leadership behaviors and actions, which lead to truthful, impactful conversations where life’s most meaningful emotions could be expressed.
Of course, love is only a small aspect of why I respect Lynn so much. I’m still in awe of the many, many things Lynn’s achieved in our community. She was the founding president of Truckee Meadows Tomorrow, which measures progress on our region’s quality-of-life indicators, as well as the founding president of the Nevada Women’s Fund, which offers programs for women and children. Today, she’s a member of the board of trustees of the Reno-Tahoe Airport Authority and the board of directors of the Reno-Sparks Convention and Visitors Authority, two key local agencies.
Lynn was, and still is, my archetype for leadership. I love her right back for that.









Beautiful. What a great role model and champion to have in your life. And it is always refreshing for me to see Love and Leadership in the same sentence!
This post reminded me of Lisa, my first manager in the business world. Her love made employees shine. Many years later, she was on a long list of people who were being “outplaced” as a result of a merger w/HP. Lisa’s peer on the west coast, a long time HP Sr. Manager, would head up the merged east and west coast groups. Someone suggested, however, that they compare and contrast Lisa’s metrics with those of her west coast counterpart before finalizing this decision. That was over 5 years ago. Guess who is still with HP?
And guess who still loves Lisa?
Thanks Kate and Mary Jo
Way to go, Kate! This is a great story – thanks for sharing. I think servant leadership is a powerful model, but we need more real examples of it in action. Thanks MJ, for inviting my students to participate! Bret
I just love stories like this, too. The Tina Turner song comes to mind, “What’s love got to do with it?” If you’re leading “from the inside out” – Love – has a whole lot to do with it.Thanks for sharing this story!
Great story. The philosophy of servant leadership is an extraordinary form of leading as a facilitator. Her motherly attitude truly distinguish her in a male-dominated business world.
Thank you Susan, Anne, Bret (my prof!), Susan and Kevin for your kind comments about my guest post. I was a little worried that perhaps my story was a little too heartfelt for business blogging. I’m reading Seth Godin’s new book, Linchpin, now for Bret’s class. Guess this is what “emotional labor” is all about! I’m so glad to know that others responded to Lynn’s actions.
Well done, Kate – a powerful example about the huge difference between a manager and a leader, especially a servant leader. I wonder if there is any other effective kind!
Kate,
I was very touched by your post, thank you for sharing such an inspirational story. What a wonderful opportunity to have worked for Lynn! Love, dignity and kindness have a place, and a purpose in the business world. Thank you, again.
Marne
Earl and Marne, thank you for taking the time to comment. Earl, your comment about the servant leader is making me reflect on several bad leaders. Certainly NONE of them were servant leaders. You might be right about effectiveness.
I’m taken with your name, too, which reminds me of the delicious tea, although that’s spelled G-R-E-Y just like my name!